Find a Reason or Make an Excuse

Sometimes people imagine passion as finding a reason for doing what you love and then doing it with all your heart, body and soul. Well that’s one angle to look at it.

Sometimes your passion or purpose doesn’t always come crystal clear for everyone. The desired path is unclear or quite vague. Some people perhaps have an idea of what they do NOT want rather than what they do want. This sort of mismatch is also very useful. A woman who lost her child as a result of some reckless driver intoxicated by alcohol may become a force for good in championing campaigns against DUI and making new legislation to avoid any other mother in the future from ever experiencing the anguish and pain she feels.

A lady like Oprah who has been sexually abused as a teenager, ends up with a T.V show and a huge organization geared towards helping others avoid ever being taken advantage of. Doing this gives her life new meaning.

Sometimes our purpose in life can be crystal clear as a writing on a wall. Other times it’s not so clear, but through our daily living and experiences, our uniqueness and our purpose becomes gradually unfolded. This often comes as a result of a significant emotional event or new experience.

So if you feel like a drifter or sometimes get discouraged because you’re not so sure what you really want out of life or what you’re meant to be doing, all hope is not lost. Go out and keep exploring and making new connections and gathering a wide varied amount of experiences. Travel and explore new cultures, make new friends, reach out to people way higher in social status than you are and also those way lower than you currently rank. Let your heart break, it could be what you need to inspire you to greatness and become a force for good.

Just as our motivations may differ, the forces driving these motives are also dual- Pleasure and Pain. Some folks may act out of a pursuit for pleasure- these folks are able to set a goal and pursue it. Others may act out of a need to avoid pain. In this case, they may at first need a push to get started down their path to greatness. The secret as always is in finding new ways to interprete what these events- failures, mistakes, disappointments and errors in judgement mean and transforming them into something worthwhile.

So if you can’t find a reason to be successful like those driven by passion to pursue pleasure. Find an excuse or make one up- “My girlfriend dumped me for an older man, so I took a decision to become richer than him and buy over his company”. Or as Anthony Robbins, the World #1 life coach, best-selling author and entrepreneur said recently in an interview with Inc magazine, “I just discovered I was soon going to be blessed with a new born baby and I knew that I needed to become wealthy in order to provide for my son all the things I didn’t have growing up”. Within a year he rose from making $36,000 annually to making over $1million per annum, of course now he makes $5billion in sales annually. That’s a good excuse as any if you ask me. #askebuka.

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